So like I mentioned yesterday, my Lunar New Year’s fortune said that I should have better luck with the ladies this year, so I guess that’s good news for resolution #8.
The thing is, though, I don’t really know where to start. I’ve never been comfortable approaching strangers in the bar/club scene, let alone other “non-threatening” public places. I don’t have class or APhiO to force me to meet new people anymore. So where does that leave me? Of course, I turn to a geek’s best friend — the internet. Nothing so shady as Craigslist, although it’d be convenient, since I spend all my time on there anyway looking for jobs.
I did some research, and supposedly the place to go is Plenty Of Fish. It’s free, and the guy who made it is apparently a math genius who was cited in a Fields Medal paper. I’m not sure if that particular algorithm is actually used on the site, but I’m sure math is good for something on a site of this sort. So I signed up last night.
And that’s when I hit the first hurdle — writing a compelling profile. I really hate writing about myself. I know, ironic, since I’m blogging about this. But I mean… I never really know how to describe myself. I certainly don’t like to or know the first thing about how to sell myself. My personal statements for college apps were a joke. My profiles on the usual networking sites are blank. My resume is horrid. I even had trouble writing the little bio-blurbs to introduce myself in Expressions when I was an officer in APhiO. But this is a dating site; I know my picture isn’t enough to win me points, so I’m going to have to earn them with the profile. POF gave me a checklist of things I should mention, and I tried to hit all the items, but I know it’s weak.
So, I turn to you… Do you think there’s a social stigma against online dating services and should there be? Oh, and does anyone use generic networking sites like Facebook to meet new people? (Personally, I only use it to talk to people I know already.) Any other comments or advice to offer?
ask someone who knows you well to write your profile for you? or survey several and compile the results.
get into a law school and meet someone there, kill two birds with one stone. but your best bet is probably through mutual friends.
Posted by kim on January 27th, 2009.
Yeah, I feel more and more like law school is going to have to be the silver bullet that takes care of everything for me.
Posted by Dinh on January 27th, 2009.
I would say, post what you’ve written about yourself so far and let us help you edit it
Yep, I agree. Law school is where I think you might find your lobster
or randomly through friends/acquaintances.
Posted by Judy on January 28th, 2009.
My lobster?
Posted by Dinh on January 28th, 2009.
that’s where I want to be
yes, law school is full of lobsters.
Posted by alipton on January 28th, 2009.
Hahaha. But I’m vegetarian?
Posted by Dinh on January 28th, 2009.
Check this out!
http://coedmagazine.com/sex/54625/
Not saying you’re a coward, you’re just shy!!!
Posted by Peggy on February 1st, 2009.
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